join the convo

January 13, 2011


This week hasn't exactly gone as planned. In fact, every thing I thought I would be doing and planned at the beginning of the week was somehow lost in the translation. I'm definitely far behind on posting here on the blog and a little disappointed that I didn't keep up the motivation I had from last week. Instead, it's late Thursday night and here I am trying to have a conversation with all of you out there in blog world.

This reminds me of something that I learned about myself this week. While taking a self-assessment for  class I answered a very simple question and found an much bigger answer than expected. The question was part of a series that related to how I deal with social and emotional situations with 3 options for an answer.  It asked how I would react if I approached someone to start a conversation and they did not respond. My answer was obvious. I would move on and try to talk to someone else. When I tallied my results I found that my answer was worth 0 points...and points was what I wanted. (The other options were worth 5 and 10 points.) I was pretty shocked that this answer resulted in NO points and that it wasn't the proper way to respond. What would you do?

The reason I bring it up here is because the two other answers implied that there should be an open dialog about why the person did not respond...that I should try again. So, right now, at this moment, I am going to try to start the conversation with all of you again.

I'll be honest. Some days when I post and I don't receive any comments I wonder if anyone out there is reading. Yes...I'm whining. I mean...many of you know that I like to talk to myself a lot, but not always. I would LOVE to hear from you! (Do I sound desperate? Jeez.) The funny thing is, I know there are people out there reading, but I still wonder if it's just me and the void. Sometimes that is why I lose motivation to post. So I began to wonder...why do some people post comments and not others? I came up with 3 potential answers...1) Sometimes we are too busy to post or are still taking in what was said so we don't feel motivated to comment. I read a lot of blogs and I do this A LOT. 2) Sometimes we feel vulnerable posting to the void because we are uncomfortable putting ourselves out there or our reaction is too personal for a public space. Again, I do this a lot. 3) Sometimes we are not sure how to comment on a blog because each page is different than the last. I find this frustrating sometimes. So...I am going to give my readers a few solutions to hopefully help you feel comfortable joining the conversation.

For those who identify with #1...I know what it's like to be busy or not motivated to react. But, if you ever feel like you want to reply, remember, I would LOVE to hear from you! For option #2...I don't want to push you out of your comfort zone, but again I would LOVE to hear from you and encourage you to post within those boundaries. You can also opt to post anonymously. (*whispering* "No one will ever know it was you.") If you have more to say, or still don't feel comfortable, feel free to send me an email response that you know only I will see. It will be our own personal convo. And behind Door #3... Congratulations! We have an exciting tutorial! But because this post is growing WAY too long, tomorrow will be dubbed "Tutorial Friday". Stay tuned.

P.S. I fixed the link for the Delightful December playlist. I sincerely hope you will check it out and listen to a few of the tunes that made that month magical for me.